The next stage of the journey is now mediation
Some commentators say the average legal costs of a divorce now in Dublin can be on average 20,000 Euros. This can take lots of time, stress and distress waiting for court dates. Whereas mediation by comparison can cost on average 2000 Euros a saving of 18,000 Euros and could be done and dusted with a legal agreement in a day. The process is also far less adversarial.
Mediators who do this work need extra training for divorce and separation in addition to their foundation training.
You go to mediation for a mutual agreement that both disputants design with the help of a qualified mediator.
This is the great thing about the Irish judiciary as they are the ones who are advocating mediation more than any other body in Irish society currently. They know the benefits and have seen the effects of financial ruin from litigation.
This is a consequential stage by stage process the registered and qualified mediator has training in safely guiding you through.
As a mediator you have to be centered, so my martial arts training gives me that, and silent at times so the disputants can negotiate an agreement or appeal to each others humanity. As many people who know me from my meditation training I can stay silent for hours if I have too. Presence and being present is another aspect. Mostly its the deadlocks that have been destroying peoples wellbeing with stress diffusing. Mostly transformation alchemy.
You can witness the most profound transformations in mediations and put an end to a lot of suffering.